Ask Dr. Karen - June 22 Dr. Karen, How can I stop being so reactive to colleagues’ comments and behaviors?  (Many requests for variations on this theme)   Answer: Reactions occur first in our bodies.  We first have to attend to our physical state which has a major impact on our body tension.  Here are the basics to get in shape to stay non-reactive:  ·        Get enough rest; most of us are typically sleep deprived especially when: o       When there are deadlines or month-end recurring get enough sleep o       Keep alcohol consumption down ·        Eat protein at every meal and snack where possible o       Sugary snacks are no-no’s; you get a high and then a let down o       Nuts, yogurt, cheese and high-protein bars don’t give you spikes in blood sugar ·        Drink 6-8 glasses of water a day; tea and coffee don’t count ·        Control the caffeine in coffee and tea; o       Use green tea or herbal teas o       Eat some protein and fat with caffeine to lessen the sugar “hit” on your system ·        Cut out carbonated colas and soda pop; o       The high caffeine content, sugar, or fake sugar, are not healthy for you. o       The Phosphoric Acid in sodas can deplete your bone mass causing osteoporosis o       The over carbonation can make you “over carbonated” at work. ·        Keep your muscles relaxed o       Work out or stretch regularly o       Lean back in your chair during meetings o       If you find yourself reacting strongly get up and walk around for ten minutes; that’s enough time to calm down